So it is with the issue of grace. You can’t have grace when you have rules but little relationship. In fact, that is the ideal formula for raising rebellious kids. You cannot assume that you are even in the area code of grace if your way of raising kids is confined to making sure they adhere to a clear set of guidelines. Guys like Tom are blind to this because they have such a strong passion for godly obedience. If any of their children balk at their unreasonableness, they can always drop the Ephesians 6:1 grenade on them. That’s the passage where Paul admonished children to obey their parents in the Lord, for it is the right thing to do.

Tim Kimmel, Grace-Based Parenting (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005).