Grace-based parenting works from the inside out. Fear-based parenting works from the outside in. That’s why I think so many of the superficial measuring rods of fear-based parenting are so foolish—even destructive to our children’s relationship with God (i.e., how many verses they’ve memorized, how conservatively they dress, the fact that they listen to only Christian music, etc.).

Tim Kimmel, Grace-Based Parenting (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2005).