I found the following at this website. It sums up much of what I have seen God doing my life. I most often react incorrectly.
Do you want to know the chiseling tools God uses to carve humility within us? Here they are—insults, humiliation, offense, rejection, mistreatment, accusation, injustice, pain, oppression, failure…etc. These are the tools God uses in the workshop of conforming people to meekness.
How often have we prayed to God to humble us but abruptly and vehemently reacted to some difficult person or to some troubling situation which may be God’s messengers to answer our prayer to teach us humility!
O, many of us are still disfigured in Christian character because of our resistance to God’s tools in shaping us into a man and woman He wants us to be! I am convicted of manifesting such foolish and obstinate behavior many times. But those who persevere under adversity are beautifully carved out by the Holy Spirit, grandly reflecting God’s sublime virtues.
If we want to be humble in life, may we heed well the counsel of Andrew Murray:
Place yourself before God in your utter helplessness. Consent heartily to the fact of your weakness to slay or make yourself alive. Sink down into your own nothingness, in the spirit of meek and patient and trustful surrender to God. Accept every humiliation, look upon every fellow-man who tries or vexes you, as a means of grace to humble you. Use every opportunity of humbling yourself before your fellow-men as a help to remain humble before God. (Humility, pg. 76)
Remember, God does not bypass adversity to produce humility within us. We have to let ourself to be deeply hurt if we expect God to produce deep humility in us. No one can learn humility if he is reluctant to face adversity.
All those who have attempted to bypass God’s ways of learning humility and hurriedly climbed over the top through self-effort—they had to learn hard lessons after the fall. Better to learn before the climb than to learn after the fall.
Let us allow God to thoroughly refine us in the flames of affliction and humiliation, for we would not only shine brightly in His virtues but may also remain steadfast in them as we progress in life. Glory be to the Most High God who is able to humble us, the proud!